I work in an environment where there are at least 5 other creative people writing away all day. We might be churning out material that leads to educating the nation, but in between we do other things. Like Skype and yes I write other articles such as this, or even love letters. The other day my friend and colleagues’ eyes were wide when I sat down, put some lipstick on, left a kiss on a letter and sprayed it with some perfume. In true Cape style she said “Jirre! It’s got you bad” and my other male colleague friend popped his head over the cubicle to see what the spectacle was all about. I rolled my eyes and handed her the letter.
A few seconds into it she settled and softened and looked at me and said “I wish someone would do that for me” Now they all know that I am an incurable romantic. But what surprised me last Friday and prompted this article was when John wheeled himself next to me from his cubicle and asked. “I am going to ask you something personal” My first thought was – oh gawd is this another hetero male question like “Who is the man?” But nope - pleasant surprise. The question was “How do I spice up my love life? We have been sleeping in separate rooms for 9 months.”
MG! Missy friend wheeled up too – heavens. Well this led me to think that everyone in any form of relationship has it go stale after a while. Now, I don’t pretend to be a perfect girlfriend, but I know that keeping the ROMANCE alive is what has worked for me. We tend to rush into relationships with chocolates and roses blazing. What about a few months or years down the line? Couch potatoes watching tv with popcorn? I shudder.
My advice to them both was to make a date with your lover, make a point in your diary to make time for the finer delights. Diarise a love “to do” weekly. Think of things that you used to do when love was fresh. Think of new things and it need not be expensive. Get home earlier if you can and leave that trail of roses to a candle lit bath. Inform your lover that there are some surprises in store for them. It’s not a new sexual position or toy that will liven up a relationship. It’s the small caring things and the walk on the beach with a bottle of champagne in the knapsack is the gesture that can help the love endure. And wow yes even washing the car and leaving a note on the windscreen. Get creative!
Yes I do also know that when a relationship is over no amount of romance might make it all better, but if there is any love left -
Get into action there lovers – CARE and it will bring some pleasant surprises.
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